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An indispensable survival manual for guys entering the trenches of fatherhood, Be Prepared is loaded with one-of-a-kind insights, MacGyver-esque tips and tricks, and no-nonsense advice for mastering the first year as a dad. Yes, there's a bit too much emphasis here on broadly drawn manly stuff like changing a diaper at a ballgame, but there's also heaps of useful advice that's cleverly and efficiently presented for pops who, despite their best intentions, really aren't prepared to dig into encyclopedia-sized tomes.
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Find Best Price at Amazon"I bought it for my hubby but I wound up reading the entire thing myself."
"Most importantly, its not of the "you're a guy so you must be an idiot stereotypical clueless dad to be" type."
"I wanted something that would help him prepare for our first child, but worried that a normal baby book would bore him (he's not much one for self-help books in general)."
"My husband has very much enjoyed learning the essentials of first time daddyhood from this book."
"I've never wanted children, but I will make lifestyle sacrifices to make my wife’s lifestyle dreams come true."
"There are ideas in the book that every dad should know, especially those becoming a dad for the first time."
"I bought this for my son for the birth of his first baby, kinda sorta as a joke."
"The writing hilariously describes the first year of a baby's life with illustrations that match the absurdity and truth of new parenthood."
New York Times bestselling author Roxane Gay has written with intimacy and sensitivity about food and bodies, using her own emotional and psychological struggles as a means of exploring our shared anxieties over pleasure, consumption, appearance, and health. “The book’s short, sharp chapters come alive in vivid personal anecdotes. And on nearly every page, Gay’s raw, powerful prose plants a flag, facing down decades of shame and self-loathing by reclaiming the body she never should have had to lose.” ( Entertainment Weekly ). Undestroyed, unruly, unfettered, Ms. We are all better for having you do so in the same ferociously honest fashion that you have written this book.” ( Los Angeles Times ). “Hunger,” like Ta-Nehisi Coates’ “Between the World and Me,” interrogates the fortunes of black bodies in public spaces. There is an incantatory element of repetition to “Hunger”: The very short chapters scallop over the reader like waves.” ( Newsday ). intellectually rigorous and deeply moving.” (The New York Times Book Review). “Her spare prose, written with a raw grace, heightens the emotional resonance of her story, making each observation sharper, each revelation more riveting. Gay has a vivid, telegraphic writing style, which serves her well. Repetitive and recursive, it propels the reader forward with unstoppable force.” (Associated Press). Anyone who has a body should read this book.” (Isaac Fitzgerald on the Today show). Anyone familiar with. Gay’s books or tweets knows she also wields a dagger-sharp wit.”. ( Boston Globe ). a memoir that’s so brave, so raw, it feels as if [Gay]’s entrusting you with her soul.” ( Seattle Times ).
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Find Best Price at Amazon"Some quotes: "My warmth was hidden far from anything that could bring hurt because I knew I didn't have the inner scaffolding to endure anymore hurt in those protected places." "There is a price to be paid for visibility and there is even more of a price to be paid when you are hypervisible.""
"Roxane's story is one of endurance and survival of things no girl should ever have to endure, but her skill as a writer really shines through."
"This book is very good and Roxane definitely doesn't hold anything back."
"An excellent book, with a powerful voice."
"A very powerful book that shifts how you think about people and problems."
"Well written, poignant, and fascinating account of the writer's life and how her eating disorder evolved and affected her."
"Brutally honest and so well written."
"I love this woman's courage and strength."
From the New York Times bestselling author of Bad Feminist : a searingly honest memoir of food, weight, self-image, and learning how to feed your hunger while taking care of yourself. “I ate and ate and ate in the hopes that if I made myself big, my body would be safe. An Amazon Best Book of June 2017: If you’re a woman in America, chances are, no matter your size, you probably have a somewhat fetishistic relationship with food. We obsess over having too much, too little (to a lesser degree); we use terms like stealing a bite and guilty pleasure--things that evoke shame, and are meant to keep our bodies in line. Clothes are designed to fit you, kale growers love you, and so does society. In her brutally honest and brave memoir Hunger , Gay recounts a childhood sexual assault that led her to purposely gain weight in order to be unseen and therefore “safe.” Gay warns at the beginning of the book that if you’re looking for a triumphant weight loss memoir, this is not it. And through Gay’s experience we learn one of lessons she eventually did, that “all of us have to be more considerate of the realities of the bodies of others,” and more accepting of our own. --Erin Kodicek, The Amazon Book Review “A work of staggering honesty . Poignantly told.” ( New Republic ). “The book’s short, sharp chapters come alive in vivid personal anecdotes. And on nearly every page, Gay’s raw, powerful prose plants a flag, facing down decades of shame and self-loathing by reclaiming the body she never should have had to lose.” ( Entertainment Weekly ). “Hunger,” like Ta-Nehisi Coates’ “Between the World and Me,” interrogates the fortunes of black bodies in public spaces. There is an incantatory element of repetition to “Hunger”: The very short chapters scallop over the reader like waves.” ( Newsday ). intellectually rigorous and deeply moving.” (The New York Times Book Review). “Her spare prose, written with a raw grace, heightens the emotional resonance of her story, making each observation sharper, each revelation more riveting. Repetitive and recursive, it propels the reader forward with unstoppable force.” (Associated Press). Anyone familiar with. Gay’s books or tweets knows she also wields a dagger-sharp wit.”. ( Boston Globe ). a memoir that’s so brave, so raw, it feels as if [Gay]’s entrusting you with her soul.” ( Seattle Times ).
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Find Best Price at Amazon"Some quotes: "My warmth was hidden far from anything that could bring hurt because I knew I didn't have the inner scaffolding to endure anymore hurt in those protected places." "There is a price to be paid for visibility and there is even more of a price to be paid when you are hypervisible.""
"An excellent book, with a powerful voice."
"A very powerful book that shifts how you think about people and problems."
"Well written, poignant, and fascinating account of the writer's life and how her eating disorder evolved and affected her."
"Wonderful and insightful."
"This was an amazing book and it took so much courage to write."
"This is a special, powerful book."
"Great memoir."
Best Lesbian Biographies
With a mother's love, clear minded common sense, and hard won wisdom, Betty DeGeneres offers up her own very personal memoir to help parents understand their gay children, and to help sons and daughters who have been rejected by their families feel less alone. Now the spokesperson for the Human Rights Campaign's National Coming Out Project, Betty DeGeneres travels the country explaining how she came to terms with her daughter's sexuality, and how love and acceptance can transform a family.
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Find Best Price at Amazon"Yes, when I was in Catholic elementary school, I was afraid of homosexuals that's what I was thought."
"I will soon be 80 years of age, so I can definitely relate to the changes that have transpired regarding homo sexuality."
"It's not a page turner or my normal kind of book, but something drew me to read this book and I'm glad that I did."
"Both strong women, they bring their hearts out in public for explaining some things we wonder about."
"This is a. wonderful example of unconditional love that God wants all of us to have."
"Happy to have read this book and gained a little more insight into the woman who mothered a legend, Ellen Degeneres."
"I enjoyed reading this book."
"The first half of the book, about her life and Ellen's life was good."
Best Gay & Lesbian Biographies
A Goodreads Choice Awards nominee. David Sedaris tells all in a book that is, literally, a lifetime in the making For forty years, David Sedaris has kept a diary in which he records everything that captures his attention-overheard comments, salacious gossip, soap opera plot twists, secrets confided by total strangers. These are the three stages that all artists - with some variation - go through in their careers...So it's encouraging to read 25 years of David Sedaris's diaries, and not just because he manages to defeat Bloat. But through all 25 years of "Theft by Finding" - of soap opera addictions and spider feeding, family kookiness (Sedaris notes the day Charles Addams dies; it feels like the passing of a baton) and language lessons - Sedaris's developing voice is the lifeline that pulls him through the murk." Yet David Sedaris has somehow pulled it off...with eviscerating wit and radiant humanity...Fans will no doubt delight in the entries that will turn into Sedaris's most beloved essays." "Sedaris fans will thrill to this opportunity to poke around in the writer's personal diaries, which he has faithfully kept for four decades and used as raw material for his hilarious nonfiction as well as his performances." "Sedaris' diaries are the wellspring for his cuttingly funny autobiographical essays, and he now presents a mesmerizing volume of deftly edited passages...Sedaris is caustically witty about his bad habits and artistic floundering...A candid, socially incisive, and sharply amusing chronicle of the evolution of an arresting comedic artist." "A David Sedaris book is always a welcome addition to any personal library - his hilarity, his self-deprecation, his compassion for (and amusement with) the human condition, and his clear joy at making his readers laugh out loud are all what make a David Sedaris book great.
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Find Best Price at Amazon"David has become the PG Woodhouse of his era."
"Love David and his writing, and this book doesn’t disappoint."
"Loved this look into David Sedaris' early years, before he was "famous"!"
"Not his best, but good enough if you are a fan."
"All the wit and charm and wry wonder you expect from David Sedaris is here."
"Didn't expect this to be as entertaining as it was."
"Bought for my husband who loves David sedaris and he didn’t like it."
Best Gay & Lesbian
Now a Major Motion Picture from Director Luca Guadagnino, Starring Armie Hammer and Timothée Chalamet, and Written by Three Time Academy Award Nominee James Ivory. A USA Today Bestseller. A Los Angeles Times Bestseller. A Vulture Book Club Pick. An Instant Classic and One of the Great Love Stories of Our Time Andre Aciman's Call Me by Your Name is the story of a sudden and powerful romance that blossoms between an adolescent boy and a summer guest at his parents’ cliffside mansion on the Italian Riviera. Elio—17, extremely well-read, sensitive and the son of a prominent expatriate professor—finds himself troublingly attracted to this year's visiting resident scholar, recruited by his father from an American university. Their shared literary interests and Jewishness help impart a sense of intimacy, and when they do consummate their passion in Oliver's room, they call each other by the other's name.
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Find Best Price at Amazon"Set in 1988 and on the Italian Riviera, which adds to the charm and appeal of the novel, Call Me By Your Name is narrated by and tells the story of a seventeen-year-old American-Italian-Jewish youth, Elio Perlman, and his six-week, summer love affair with Oliver Ulliva, a university professor who is seven years older than Elio and who has been selected to live in Elio’s parents’ home as a guest “resident” while finishing a manuscript for publication as part of the parents’ way of aiding budding writers. Much of the first half of Call Me By Your Name has a “stream of consciousness” feeling to it as Elio, a very precocious and intelligent but shy young man, defies his better intuitions and finds himself more and more attracted to Oliver. By time both Elio and the reader are aware of Oliver’s true feelings toward the younger man, a new sense of urgency, an even greater feeling of sensuality and eroticism, and a more intense atmosphere of anxiety and impending doom enters the story—all of it exquisitely captured by Aciman’s exquisitely accomplished writing."
"An Achingly Beautiful Prose of Art. Winner of the 20th Lambda Literary Award. Call Me By Your Name by Andre Aciman. Is an Ethereal Masterpiece; A Mythical Gem of Queerdom. The Novel exudes the Transformative Power of Words, Language, and Imagery. with Disarming Clarity & Volatile Poignancy. The After Effects of this book is perfectly encapsulated. By the Immortal Words of Elio to Oliver. "All That Remains is Dreammaking and Strange Remembrance" pg199. The Audiobook narration by Armie Hammer is Eargasm Heaven!!"
"You felt like you were 17 again and feeling all those emotions of someone being the most important thing in the world to you."
"Looking forward to the movie."
"A bit slow at parts."
"I wanted to read the book before watching the movie, but somehow it never happened."
"Such a sweet and rewarding story about true love and friendship."
"Easy read!"
Best Gay Biographies
In The Kid , Savage tells a no-holds-barred, high-energy story of an ordinary American couple who wants to have a baby. Savage is best when detailing the emotional ups and downs that came with revealing that he was even considering gay parenting, including his anxiety about the possible disapproval of both gay and straight friends, about the ways his sex life would change and about buying the right "baby things."
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Find Best Price at Amazon"Review of: The Kid, (What Happened After My Boyfriend and I Decided to go get Pregnant) an adoption story by Dan Savage. Writer/ Journalist, Dan Savage appears to be an adoptive parent who gets it."
"There are some passages that talk about the unique aspects of adopting as a gay couple (they never struggled with fertility; they thought they would never have the ability to get married; the way they were treated by some family members) and about some political and moral issues around discrimination against gay people, which I could see turning off someone conservative."
"I did think that the first 5-6 chapters got a little bogged down in exposition (my internal editor was mentally removing the chapter "put this book down" as it was entirely irrelevant and didn't move the story forward in any way); once they got into the "pool" and we met Melissa I found it a much more engaging read."
"I don't mind profanity at all, but I think there's a place for it, and I find it of bad taste that he relies on it too much for this type of book."
"While this book isn't a recent release, I feel like it is an honest portrayal of their journey to adoption."
"Going through the adoption process myself, I wanted to revisit the story."
"Book was in great condition and the story kept me so intrigued that I didn't feel like a was even reading it for a college class of mine."
"Very touching and inspiring book from one of my favorite people."
Best Culinary Arts & Techniques
From the New York Times bestselling author of Bad Feminist : a searingly honest memoir of food, weight, self-image, and learning how to feed your hunger while taking care of yourself. “I ate and ate and ate in the hopes that if I made myself big, my body would be safe. An Amazon Best Book of June 2017: If you’re a woman in America, chances are, no matter your size, you probably have a somewhat fetishistic relationship with food. We obsess over having too much, too little (to a lesser degree); we use terms like stealing a bite and guilty pleasure--things that evoke shame, and are meant to keep our bodies in line. Clothes are designed to fit you, kale growers love you, and so does society. In her brutally honest and brave memoir Hunger , Gay recounts a childhood sexual assault that led her to purposely gain weight in order to be unseen and therefore “safe.” Gay warns at the beginning of the book that if you’re looking for a triumphant weight loss memoir, this is not it. And through Gay’s experience we learn one of lessons she eventually did, that “all of us have to be more considerate of the realities of the bodies of others,” and more accepting of our own. --Erin Kodicek, The Amazon Book Review “A work of staggering honesty . Poignantly told.” ( New Republic ). “The book’s short, sharp chapters come alive in vivid personal anecdotes. And on nearly every page, Gay’s raw, powerful prose plants a flag, facing down decades of shame and self-loathing by reclaiming the body she never should have had to lose.” ( Entertainment Weekly ). “Hunger,” like Ta-Nehisi Coates’ “Between the World and Me,” interrogates the fortunes of black bodies in public spaces. There is an incantatory element of repetition to “Hunger”: The very short chapters scallop over the reader like waves.” ( Newsday ). intellectually rigorous and deeply moving.” (The New York Times Book Review). “Her spare prose, written with a raw grace, heightens the emotional resonance of her story, making each observation sharper, each revelation more riveting. Repetitive and recursive, it propels the reader forward with unstoppable force.” (Associated Press). Anyone familiar with. Gay’s books or tweets knows she also wields a dagger-sharp wit.”. ( Boston Globe ). a memoir that’s so brave, so raw, it feels as if [Gay]’s entrusting you with her soul.” ( Seattle Times ).
Reviews
Find Best Price at Amazon"Some quotes: "My warmth was hidden far from anything that could bring hurt because I knew I didn't have the inner scaffolding to endure anymore hurt in those protected places." "There is a price to be paid for visibility and there is even more of a price to be paid when you are hypervisible.""
"An excellent book, with a powerful voice."
"A very powerful book that shifts how you think about people and problems."
"Well written, poignant, and fascinating account of the writer's life and how her eating disorder evolved and affected her."
"Wonderful and insightful."
"This was an amazing book and it took so much courage to write."
"This is a special, powerful book."
"Great memoir."
Best Fatherhood
An indispensable survival manual for guys entering the trenches of fatherhood, Be Prepared is loaded with one-of-a-kind insights, MacGyver-esque tips and tricks, and no-nonsense advice for mastering the first year as a dad. The basics (childproofing, bathing, feeding, entertaining) intermix with nifty sidebars (homemade bath toys, foods to never give your baby, exercises for dads) in easy-to-peruse chapters organized according to the age of the offspring up to age 1. (A hunger cry, for example, is "a pattern of low-pitched, rhythmic moans, growing more and more insistent," whereas a boredom pattern is "a low-volume whimper which stops and starts irregularly."). Along with the conventional chapters on baby-proofing your house and taking a baby's temperature are more obscure—and amusing—topics, such as how to videotape your baby and how to conduct a "Mirror Puppet Sing Along" to sooth a crying baby while driving (the technique requires two mirrors, a hand-puppet and an indifference to looking silly).
Reviews
Find Best Price at Amazon"I bought it for my hubby but I wound up reading the entire thing myself."
"Most importantly, its not of the "you're a guy so you must be an idiot stereotypical clueless dad to be" type."
"I wanted something that would help him prepare for our first child, but worried that a normal baby book would bore him (he's not much one for self-help books in general)."
"My husband has very much enjoyed learning the essentials of first time daddyhood from this book."
"I've never wanted children, but I will make lifestyle sacrifices to make my wife’s lifestyle dreams come true."
"Not only did I buy this book for my husband when we were expecting, but TWO friends gave it to us as gifts (we've regifted to other expectant parents :) )."
"There are ideas in the book that every dad should know, especially those becoming a dad for the first time."
"I bought this for my son for the birth of his first baby, kinda sorta as a joke."
Best Fatherhood
For over 20 years, On Becoming Babywise has been the de facto newborn parenting manual for naturally synchronizing your baby's feeding time, waketime and nighttime sleep cycles, so the whole family can sleep through the night. Practical discussions then focus on broad and niche topics including feeding philosophies, baby sleep problems, baby scheduling challenges, nap routines, sleep training multiples, baby sleeping props, Colic and Reflux and many other dimensions which impact breast feeding schedules, bottle feeding tips and baby sleep training. 1) Taking care of baby and mom. 2) A timeline of what to expect and when. 3) Baby Sleep Training Problems and Solutions. 4) Monitoring Your Baby's Growth. 5) Healthy Baby Growth Charts. It can help any parent develop a plan that meets both the needs of a new baby and of the entire family. Instead of being in baby bondage, I was liberated to be the mother God wanted me to be. We highly recommend ONLY purchasing the newest and most current version of On Becoming Babywise (isbn 1932740139). In becoming one of America's leading infant management guides, On Becoming Babywise has continued to improve its methods and practices throughout its 24 years and this latest version is the result of all the best over the last two decades. and co-author Gary Ezzo in this book helps parents successfully and naturally synchronize their baby's feeding time, waketime and nighttime cycles. Happy, healthy and contented babies who sleep through the night on average between seven and nine weeks of age. The best evaluation of any parenting philosophy, including Babywise, is not found in the reasoning or the logic of the hypothesis. Rather, our larger objective is to help prepare minds for the incredible task of raising a child. Your baby will not care if his head rests on designer sheets or beside Disney characters, nor is your success tied to his wardrobe or bedroom accessories, but rather to the beliefs and convictions that will eventually shape your parenting experience. It is our opinion that the achievements of healthy growth, contented babies, good naps, and playful wake times, as well as the gift of nighttime sleep, are too valuable to be left to chance. We realize there are a number of parenting theories being marketed today, most of which come gift-wrapped with unrealistic promises and unnecessary burdens. Spend time with relatives and friends who follow the Attachment Parenting style of infant care. The principles contained within the pages can help parents develop workable strategies that meet the needs of their babies and the rest of the family. However, your pediatrician or family practitioner should always be consulted when questions arise about the health and welfare of your baby. Because the principles of On Becoming Babywise are so effective, I consider it part of my extended health care for the family. They consistently produce babies who are healthy, content, and who sleep through the night at an early age. ". As family physicians and a husband-wife team, we are often asked questions related to parenting and the general care of children.
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Find Best Price at Amazon"On Becoming Babywise taught me to tap into my God-given parental instincts while providing me medically-sound advice to equip me in teaching my infant to sleep through the night."
"My baby was sleeping 8 hours at night at 8 weeks old thanks to this book."
"Does he look like he's dehydrated, depraved, abused, malnourished or in a dangerous environment as what a majority of the downright idiotic 1-star reviews and their preposterous claims that would like you to believe to be the end result of following this book? I seldom write lengthy reviews, buts if I come across a product that I am passionate about because it affected our life positively, then I take the time to do so. I do this while I commute to work 100 miles round trip M-F. Needless to say, my blood pressure was at 206 mmHg at its peak during the first 6 weeks, waking up every 2 - 2.5 hours to feed baby with each feeding session lasting 30 minutes, then commuting 50 miles to work at 6:30 AM and returning home at 6:30 PM to cook for the family. I need to mention that it is imperative that you wake up your little one at set schedule to feed before he gets hungry and start crying. Sleep training, preemptively waking up your baby to feed or following a set schedule does NOT make you the devil incarnate, nor does choosing to feed your infant formula, and if you are one of those 1-star reviewers that feel this way, you need to go back to the freezer with your mother's guilt because your snowflake a$$ is probably melting just from reading my review. During this transition, we did not experience any attachment or neediness from him, thanks to Baby Wise's "Parent Directed Feeding" concept (PDF). He began taking in solid food, starting with baby cereal, pureed fruits and vegetables (we use BEABA Babycook 4 in 1 Steam Cooker and Blender, 4.5 cups, Dishwasher Safe, Cherry to steam and puree fresh fruits and vegetablee, then freeze them in Infantino Squeeze Pouches, 4-Fl Oz using the Infantino Squeeze Station). He enjoys sitting in his 5-10 minutes in Bumbo infant seat but loves his Graco high chair more - this at age 4.5 month. By 5 months, our son is fully engaged in the "Early Reading Program for Baby, Toddler, Preschool, Kindergarten- Alphabet, Vowel Phonics & 200+ Sight Words - Little Champion Reader 9 DVD, Flash card, Book Kit" DVDs. Our son, born at 37 weeks via scheduled C section, a miracle in itself, is outpacing our friends' babies in terms of mental, physical and cognitive development by a mile and I sincerely believe sleep plays a large role in it all. We never force our baby to go on long distance road trip with us, rather, we only go as far as he is ready to handle, starting with 50 miles, then 100, 250 then 300+. The book repeatedly reminds the reader to make adjustments and be flexible based on the cues exhibited by baby! I absolutely refuse to believe this and we attribute our well behaved son to the steps we've followed as outlined in Baby Wise. The same pundits "predicted" our future by saying we won't be going on road trips or eating dinner at restaurants once our baby is born. That is, while we strictly follow the BabyWise guideline (with flexibility), we still showered our son with love, stimulation, appreciation, engaging interaction, encouragement and positive re-enforcement. Who's to say that you and your spouse can't enjoy life and need to be locked in the house feeling miserable and eating TV dinner the minute you give birth to baby? Some parents overcompensate their fear of having their freedom "taken away" by taking their newborn and infants to places like Las Vegas and other trendy locations to "prove" that they can still "hang", all the while their baby is fussy overnight and throughout their trip and the parents are exhausted to the core, defeating the purpose of a family vacation altogether. The concept may or may not work as smoothly in all situation for a variety of reasons, particularly if your baby has a medical condition such as colic or gastroesophageal reflux disease (GERD) which the book addresses. Follow the guidelines outlined in BabyWise, but be ready to be flexible and make adjustments or changes to accommodate the personality of your little one!"
"This was on a baby gift registry, and it seems to have sensible advice."
"Good read- great scheduling ideas."
"Baby wise was helpful for sleep training."
"The book was good and has good ideas."
"And if crying-it-out works for you then great I've tried their method to a T. I just did not know at the time that it was considered their method."