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Best Teen & Young Adult Adoption Issues

Prison Baby: A Memoir
A deeply personal and inspiring memoir recounting one woman's struggles--beginning with her birth in prison--to find self-acceptance Even at twelve years old Deborah Jiang Stein, the adopted daughter of a progressive Jewish couple in Seattle, felt like an outsider. "Prison Baby , one woman's profound quest for family and identity, is also a soul stirring call to arms on behalf of incarcerated women and their children. “A compelling story of loss, addiction, and healing…told with grace and much heart.”. —Heidi W. Durrow, New York Times best-selling author of The Girl Who Fell From the Sky “At a time when more and more women are being incarcerated worldwide, Deborah Jiang Stein's story of the secrets and ignominy surrounding her prison birth gives readers a brave account of the backlash children and society encounter when families are torn apart by addiction, prison, and shame. More than anything, Deborah's book is a call for an open-eyed examination of our broken criminal justice system, and a heartfelt plea for more compassionate responses to poverty and mental illness.”. —Naseem Rakha, author of The Crying Tree "A profoundly moving search for identify, Prison Baby is as inspiring as it is haunting. —Katrina Kittle, author of The Blessings of the Animals. “Prison Baby is an emotionally charged, transformative story about one woman's search for her true origins. Candid and searing, Deborah Jiang Stein's memoir is a remarkable story about identity, lost and found—and about the author's journey to reclaim—and celebrate—that most primal of relationships, the one between mother and child. I dare you to read this book without crying.”. —Mira Bartok, author of The Memory Palace " Prison Baby hits all the emotions of the who, what, where, when and why's of adoption right on the head of the nail!
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"When Deborah was twelve-years-old, she discovered, while snooping through her adoptive mother's dresser drawers, that her birth mother was a heroin addict and was in prison when Deborah was born. Deborah's writing style is superb; how could it not be?"
"This utterly fascinating story, about an adopted child who discovers she was born in prison, is so well written, so honest in its emotion, and so brave in its telling, is unforgettable."
"Deborah Jiang Stein tells the story of her prison birth in an amazingly powerful telling of not just her prison momma, but the author's slips through adolecence and adulthood."
"But as she travels to women's prisons, Deborah Jiang Stein finds many women who have had the experiences her first mother had-- of being forced to give birth in prison for crimes related to addiction. As an adoptive parent and as a recovering addict, the most pain I felt--the places I cried--were in Deborah's description of how sorry she felt was as her adoptive mother was dying. However, as a recovering addict, I do not fully forgive myself for my clueless, heartless behaviors when I had my emotions and empathy buried under an ocean of alcohol and I thank God I didn't have kids at the time, but I did have parents and I did hurt them and I do feel tremendous remorse about that. But I also found myself wishing that her mother had tried harder to understand Deborah's needs and especially had not kept the secrets from Deborah or tried to smother all questions with her love and her parental competence. At the same time, her parents adopted Deborah without any benefit of generational hindsight. "Adoption research surveys indicate that not until the 1970's did more than a thousand white families include adopted children of color. I was too scared to eke out even one word to her in response, to tell her I didn't feel part of anything.-DJS". My parents adopted my mixed-race (considered black) brother at almost the same time in US histgory as Deborah was adopted, the 1960's. Rendering someone invisible will result in a failure of empathy that Deborah experienced from her loving, privileged parents. Because of my personal experience and reflection, I was aware of these dynamics when we began our adoption journey but I really wanted to be a parent. When I announced (because I am the announcer) that my husband and I would attempt to adopt locally and seek same-race adoption, I ran into a world of problems that I won't go into for this review."
"An incredible book."
"This book clearly shows how broken the system is, This little girl's life could of been so different if she would of had answers early on."
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Pieces of Me: Who do I Want to Be
Pieces of Me, Who do I Want to Be is a collection of stories, poems, art, music, quotes, activities, provocative questions, and more all for the young adopted person who wants to figure out his or her story but doesn't know where to begin. Sharing the Pieces .......... 5. Where do These Pieces Go?.......... And if you are a parent, birth parent, or professional who works with adopted and foster kids, you will find a glimpse into their world, a place that you might not often be invited to share. Others who might read this include social workers who work with pre and post adoptive parents, teen group coordinators, therapists who work with the teen population, school counselors, pre and post adoptive parents, relatives and friends. Reading about people experiencing the same situations is comforting to teenagers, who live in a judgmental world. Yoselin Corrales, 19, adopted from Tegucigalpa at 9 months, sophmore at Nebraska Wesleyan pursuing a double major in Vocal Performance and Psychology........................ We will definitely use it in our home study classes as we educate new families and we will encourage our older adoptees to purchase a copy. --Valli Baba Spahn, MPA, LSW Child Centered Recruitment Coordinator Adoption Network Cleveland. The point is adopted people have a connection through a culture all their own, a unique space they share only with others who have been moved from one family and perhaps country to another without choice. Equally connecting is the unique need to combine the inheritances of both birth and adoptive cultures and fit in to wherever they find themselves, building a healthy identity based on wholeness. Pieces of Me is a much needed contribution to the world of adoption books for teens and has plenty to say to adults. It is for adoptees of all ages who want to know their feelings are normal and to find gems of wisdom from others who have journeyed this path before them.
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"In this astonishingly vivid collection of essays, poetry, art work and songs, young adoptees give direct, honest voice to their inner thoughts and feelings about struggling to fit their personal pieces together. Each of these 107 compelling stories, conveyed in extraordinarily varied ways, reveals a unique perspective on growing up with an identity that sets one apart. Whereas certain voices talk of ongoing anger, pain and struggle; others reflect joy, peace and comfort."
"As a therapist for children with histories of trauma, I particularly like some of the candid "pieces" like Why I Cut Myself and The Queen Redeemed. These are particularly poignant selections--essential for the troubled teen who can learn that he or she is not alone in thought, actions and feelings. There are also anecdotes about moving from the birth home; prejudice, discrimination and all out feeling hatred from others; search and reunion and the profound and bottomless pit of feelings for the loss of the birth family."
"Ordered the book after we found my husband's adopted daughter who wrote a poem published in this book.."
"My husband and I work with teens and young adult adoptees who are struggling with many unanswered or unanswerable questions about their identity and existing attachment difficulties in relationships."
"Recommended by therapist."
"Insightful book for parents of tweens/teens."
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Adopted: The Ultimate Teen Guide (It Happened to Me)
Adoption experts, such as Hollee McGinnis (Policy & Operations Director for the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute), Judy Stigger (Director of International Adoptions at The Cradle), Kathleen Morrison (member of the board of trustees of the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys), Katrina Carlisle (adoption counselor and search specialist at St. Elizabeth Coleman Pregnancy and Adoption Services), and others, provide valuable answers to teen questions. Chapters include vignettes and photographs and address how teens react when they learn they are adopted, the decision to search for and meet birth parents, issues in international and transracial adoption, and adoption at an older age, among other topics. Adopted: The Ultimate Teen Guide is a comprehensive look at the issues, challenges and joys that youth experience as they make their journey through adoption.
Reviews
"As an adoptive parent I think maybe a bit more could be written about the difficulties parents face- too often the kids blame everything on the parents and maybe if there was more form an adult perspective the kids could understand the complexities of it all."
"As the parents of seven children, six of whom joined our family through adoption, we are delighted to find such an informative and clearly written book for teenagers. Actually, ADOPTED: THE ULTIMATE TEEN GUIDE should be read not just by teens but by adoption workers and parents of adopted kids of any age."
"Well presented, though I suspect some of the more difficult stories were edited to remove the discription of pain and suffering that the author's experienced."
"A good book with interesting information and my 3 adopted sons liked the "quick facts" on almost every page."
"As an adoptive parent, it gave me ideas on how to answer my son's questions and also how to have a meaningful conversation between us about his feelings."
"Also adoptive parents and birthparents will gain a lot of insight into what their kids are thinking and dealing with by reading the book."
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Best Teen & Young Adult Parental Issues

Countdown to College: 21 'To Do' Lists for High School
An easy timeline to help high school students maximize each of their 9th, 10th, 11th, and 12th grade years and optimize their chances of getting into the college of their choice. Over the last fifteen years, through city wide community parent and student workshops, nonprofit online and in person seminars and through her professional school counseling responsibilities, Valerie has helped thousands of first generation and traditional students streamline the seemingly daunting process of academic planning, finding resources and applying to college.
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"Our kids don't seem to be getting a lot of this information from schools, so they need to be taught these things at home!"
"This book is to provide a grocery list so at the end of four years you can kick back and enjoy a gourmet meal."
"I have purchased this book several times for family and friends that are entering high school and it is an invaluable guide - kudos to the authors!"
"It highlights all the necessary steps for high schoolers (and their parents) to stay on target for picking and attending the right college."
"This book help parents a great deal to know what is needed and in what order so they will be prepared for college."
"This book is essential for high school students who are planning to attend college!"
"Should have gotten this book when my grandsons were just entering High School."
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Best Teen & Young Adult Marriage & Divorce Issues

The Divorce Workbook for Teens: Activities to Help You Move Beyond the Breakup
This book gives them everything they need to get through their parents' divorce and keep it from taking a long-term emotional toll. This workbook helps teens understand their feelings, cope with parental fighting, and be happy after their parents' divorce.
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"I usually just skim the stories and at times have skipped over entire activities because the activities are elementary-like, and the high schoolers I work with don't take them seriously."
"this workbook was really helpful for me, and unlike other workbooks it didn't make me feel...crazy or undermined or anything."
"Great for working with teens and preteens."
"It was an okay book and even since it's aimed at teens it didn't really interest me or help me deal with depression."
"I love using this workbook with teens."
"This workbook is an amazing tool to have as a Clinician working with children."
"I have used it with some of my clients."
"Great book....but mine is missing pages 27-58 (instead of these pages there is a second copy of pages 1-26)."
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